Me: "Ummmm..... sort of....."
Her: confused face
Me: "Uh..." stalling, still trying to figure out what to say
Me: "Well, I did, but he died."
Her: look of horror
Me: Complete verbal diarrhea while starting to cry talking about how that's why I started coming here to do something positive for myself and try not to think about it, and it's so hard to have all this extra baby weight, and blah blah sadness blah.
Her: looking like she wants to run away: "Oh my god I'm so sorry. I shouldn't have asked."
Me: "No, no, it's okay I have to learn how to deal with stuff like this."
And then I think I mumbled something incoherent about Mother's Day which made sense in my mind but probably just confused her and made her feel worse. Then I ran away.
Win! Great convo, Chickin. Way to scare off a potential new friend and probably make her feel really really bad. Normally I'd see her again tomorrow morning and we'd chat but my guess is that she will probably try to hide from me on the other side of the room. And I really wouldn't blame her.
Me thinks I should make a plan for how I'll answer this question the next time it comes up so I don't scare away every single new person.